1. The Tug Of War For Control Begins
When Saturn squares Lilith in synastry, a tense tug-of-war for control in the relationship starts. You both crave this power for different reasons, and neither wants to surrender it fully.
Saturn seeks structure and propriety. They want to uphold tradition, rules, and boundaries. Yet Lilith defies all constraints. They demand independence, resist standards, and incite rebellion. Clashes seem inevitable at times.
You, as the Saturn person, may try to get your Lilith partner to conform to certain ideals. They’ll rebel and accuse you of being authoritarian. In turn, your Lilith partner also urges you to question and break free from old rules and conventions.
This dynamic can manifest in various ways, such as challenging traditional gender roles, questioning societal expectations around relationships, or redefining what commitment and responsibility mean to you two.
2. Criticism Can Cast An Oppressive Shadow
With Saturn-Lilith square, criticism can seep into your relationship in insidious ways. Saturn may perceive Lilith’s dark side through hypercritical lenses. Rigid expectations may abound. No matter how hard Lilith tries, it seems they cannot please Saturn.
Constant disapproval from the Saturn partner can decrease the Lilith person’s self-esteem over time. One of you may internalize the shame, believing you’re not good enough. The other partner may externalize it as anger or mistrust.
Neither style of coping with judgment is healthy. Passive aggression and calculated detachment are common tactics. You may harshly judge your partner where you should apply empathy and mutual respect.
3. Perhaps Nothing Feels Secure
With Saturn square Lilith synastry, comfort and security tend to be elusive in the relationship. You may sacrifice too much freedom in exchange for stability. Or you may go to the opposite extreme – living wildly without any foundation.
If Saturn dominates, the relationship can feel cold, boring, and lifeless. Freedom can be inhibited. When Lilith overpowers, things can get chaotic. There can be no boundaries to provide a sense of safety.
Too much Saturn can make the relationship feel like a prison. Too much Lilith can create anarchy. This synastry aspect requires you both to create order out of chaos.